Pastor Jessica Kayanja is trending for a social media clip taken from a talk she gave during a marrieds meeting at their church, Miracle Centre church, Lubaga.
The wife to pastor Robert Kayanja was captured passionately speaking about the quality and quantity of lovemaking husbands expect from their wives, with total disregard for the kind of day they just had. Especially for couples that have been together at least ten years, she made some quite solid points.
She pointed out that because a wife is many things at that point – she has grown from just girlfriend/wife/lover/friend to a business partner, co-investor with her husband, mother, a jet-set career woman in her own right, or call her a hustler.
And that when a woman is wearing all those hats during the day, the ‘wife hat’ and the sex that comes with it may be the farthest from her mind, and she, therefore, needs thoughtful, generous re-centering by her spouse at the end of a long day. What she gets instead, is a to-the-point, no-nonsense man telling her to switch off the lights and ‘serve him’.
Pastor Jessica gave the men in the room much-needed kojja advice that their wives do not simply switch from hustler mode to lover-girl mode at the snap of a finger. She will need to be dined and wined, complimented and treated right in order for her to finally switch roles/hats. I could not agree more!
Especially when she talked about the grumpy husband who barely says a word during the dinner lovingly prepared by his wife – not even saying thank you afterwards – only for him to dive for her the moment they are alone in the bedroom. It was a hilarious session, especially since her husband was seated next to her and throwing in barbs of his own.
I don’t know whether she knows the storm she caused with that viral clip. Wives have been sharing it on their forums and agreeing enthusiastically with her, with one commenting in her WhatsApp group that she never thought she would see the day when someone articulated her feelings so accurately.
Living in Canada, she said she works daily in close proximity with her husband and finds it hard to walk through their front door after a long day and switch into the sexy tigress her husband expects, ‘just like that’.
“Every man should see that clip; sometimes I feel so lost and confused about our sex life, when he just…goes for it,” another wrote.
Especially after several years of marriage when careers, additional relationships, growth and generally, life, have listed the boat considerably, it will take an intentional man still invested in his marriage to recognize the need to balance the boat by drawing his wife back in.
And should the wife find herself already in the mood, thanks to that time of the month or otherwise, but her husband is consumed by debt, the hustle, yet another Manchester United loss, the questioning voices in his head, then she too should not expect him to be a sex magician.
He may be the one in need of re-centering and locking that world outside the door first, by making his home a true sanctuary, feeding him and pampering him the way he likes to, first.
So, yes; it is two-way. Only that wives tend to suffer more at the hands of their physically ever-ready husbands, who have no clue how to help bring them up to speed too.
He turns up and wants to be served hot by a wife whose brain is still reeling from the shortage she incurred at the bank. Where is your romantic bone?
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