Pius Bigirimana, the Secretary to the Judiciary, has delved into the realms of human intimacy with his new book titled, Naked Truth: A Conversation about African Sex Magic Treasures.
In this thought-provoking work, Bigirimana challenges conventional perspectives on sex, arguing that it transcends mere physicality and encompasses emotional, spiritual and physical elements. The book critically analyzes the profound societal shifts caused by technological advancements and socio-anthropological changes, which have transformed the dynamics of human relationships and sexual encounters.
Bigirimana contends that these shifts have led to the commoditization of relationships, where personal pleasure takes precedence over the commitment of love. In a society increasingly characterized by short-lived affairs, Bigirimana emphasizes the need for individuals to take responsibility for their pleasure.
He observes that decisions are often made without considering their consequences on children, spouses and extended families, perpetuating a cycle of emotional detachment. One remarkable aspect of Bigirimana’s work is its focus on the institution of marriage as the centre for understanding the meaning and technique of sex.
He asserts that sex, when understood and practiced within the context of a committed relationship, can preserve its original purpose and vitality. Bigirimana’s book also delves into the intricate facets of what constitutes “good sex.”
He explores tangible and intangible factors such as imagination, conscience and physical surroundings, which can significantly enhance the quality of a sexual experience when consciously incorporated by both partners.
Furthermore, he underscores the uniqueness of each individual’s sexual disposition, asserting that it is the duty of spouses to explore and understand each other’s unique sexual “wiring” to intensify mutual enjoyment.
Bigirimana does not shy away from addressing the darker side of intimacy, highlighting how spouses can weaponize sex as a means of retaliation within relationships. He emphasizes the importance of open communication and a shared understanding of the role of sex within marriage, insisting that a marriage devoid of sex is destined for failure.
Against the backdrop of rising divorce rates in Uganda, Bigirimana’s book provides valuable insights into the issues that can contribute to marital breakdowns, particularly those related to sexual dissatisfaction. In chapter six, he explores the influence of memory, physical experiences, tradition and culture in shaping individuals’ perceptions of sex.
These factors, he argues, play a pivotal role in determining how couples communicate about sex and navigate differences in their family values. Additionally, Bigirimana discusses how early sexual experiences and cultural repression can impact an individual’s views on sex, emphasizing the necessity of open communication and meeting each other’s expectations willingly.
The book also addresses the intersection of sex with technology and the potential pitfalls of the digital age. Bigirimana warns against the temptation of using technology for illicit affairs, highlighting the risks it poses to marriages.
In the realm of substance abuse, Bigirimana underscores the detrimental effects of drugs on families, advocating for abstinence to protect marital bonds and overall well-being. The book concludes with a call for couples to actively nurture love, care, financial security, communication, and physical health as essential components of a fulfilling marriage.
In Naked Truth, Bigirimana offers a comprehensive exploration of human intimacy, challenging societal norms and shedding light on the complex web of factors that contribute to a successful, loving and intimate partnership. By daring to address these controversial topics, Bigirimana provides readers with an opportunity for reflection and self-improvement, ultimately encouraging healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
The book can be found in leading bookstores at Shs 50,000