Wonders never cease, indeed. Look at this scenario below: As men hit their forties and approach the fifties and beyond, scientists say their testosterone levels naturally start to dip.

Where he was the city’s stud before, juggling women and making them cry from heartbreak, now he can hardly sexually sustain the one he is with, especially if she too is in his age bracket. Why?

Because on an interesting note, many women when they hit perimenopause (in their late 30s and 40s) there is an uncomfortable fluctuation in their progesterone and estrogen, but at the same time, a rise in testosterone levels! Did you know that?

I was reading a book that stated as much, and it was so intriguing I went online for some more research, and it is indeed true. Some wives who spent the biggest part of their marriages bemoaning the amount of sex their husbands demanded/ required, suddenly experience a burst of high sexual libido as the testosterone threatens to take over where estrogen and progesterone are struggling.

Now, therein starts the real party! The husband’s testosterone levels are naturally dipping and he is not the stallion he used to be in his youth, yet his wife is discovering her mojo and is constantly horny and hungry for that attention.

Meanwhile, the husband, now alarmed by his waning virility and seeming bluntness in his tools ( judging by how dismissive of his sexual efforts his wife has become), goes into a panic phase – also called the midlife crisis – and hides this panic behind erratic life choices like hitting on much younger girls (more than he can ever devour), ditching his wardrobe for a more youthful look, acquiring a taste for things he never looked twice at when he was 30, etc.

And the wife, left high and dry as she navigates her ‘new’ body, also finds herself in some tricky situations. No wonder, Kampala is teeming with married men cheating on their wives with married women.

I am a strong advocate of taking food supplements after a certain age. If you don’t recognize the havoc hormones can wreak on your marriage and mitigate it with hormone-balancing supplements, you are in for a rollercoaster ride.

By the time you both settle down again, there will be a lot of kneeling to tearfully apologise during your 35th wedding anniversary speeches – if you are not divorced by then, that is!

Of course, I am not a scientist by any measure. These are facts I read about and reached my interesting conclusions. I could be wrong, but I bet you I am right. Let me know if you have answers to the questions:

Is this why a man may typically flip and want to prove to all and sundry that he is still virile by doing close-to-crazy things like buying that monster bike, dating a girl 30 years younger, etc… like some sort of desperate denial of his age?

Is it why, increasingly, older women are taking the bold step to date/marry men much younger than them, because that is where the real virility that matches their just-discovered testosterone-driven libido lies?

Is that the big cause of divorce among couples that have been together for decades; an exchange of sexual energies along the way?

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