TIMETABLE, TIMETABLE!
Normalise having a social life calendar that says things like: ‘Monday – drinks with the boys/girls’ night out’, ‘Tuesday – work out at the club, then…sexual healing’, ‘Wednesday – fellowship at church; early evening for family time’, ‘Thursday – date night and then we get to get it on!’ ‘Friday – family road trip every last Friday of the month; so help us God!’ ‘Saturday – farm/ projects day, with chances of great sex later’, ‘Sunday – church, then have friends over’…
We have been programmed to think that spontaneity is the only way lovemaking turns out great, but times have changed; it is easy to become too busy for love and for each other; so, pencil things in a weekly timetable.
HOST MORE
Being locked away in your own world, January to December, has not done your marriage any favours. Put on a united front this year and host more in your home.
Have other couples come over, have reasons for a cook-up and drink-up… these things make a house more homely and force couples to be/appear cordial and affectionate even when that is not the current reality; but hey, don’t they say fake it till you make it? Who knows, being around loving couples or terribly toxic ones could be the wakeup call or mirror your sex life needed to heal!
Plus, many husbands are turned on by seeing their otherwise busy, corporate wives in their domestic element and wives love to see their husbands be in charge at home – hosting kills those two birds with one stone.
PICK YOURSELF UP
You gave up working out. You gave up trying. You gave up loving yourself. You gave up on your marriage. You even gave up on the sex. This year, find that dumping ground and pick yourself up, dust yourself off and give it another try.
I always tell my friends and relatives, if you do not plan on divorcing that man/ woman, then quit poisoning yourself with bitterness and resentment and work on making the marriage work again! Just do your part. Look good. Feel good. Do something(s) that truly makes you happy.
Rediscover friends. Determine to make your spouse fall in love with you again. If it was your nonstop henpecking that drove him away and left you on the garbage skip, pick yourself up and install a better temperament with God’s grace. If it was your philandering and general neglect that made her give up on everything, 2024 is giving you 12 months to fix things.
RENEW YOUR VOWS
It does not have to be a big do, but make it spiritual, to remind yourselves why you chose each other in the first place. Then make it quite carnal, by gifting yourselves a second honeymoon that will leave your sex life begging for water!
HEALTH FIRST
Couples are quietly battling dying sex lives, because of husbands’ enlarged prostate glands that have turned intimacy into a real nightmare.
Husbands are no longer dismayed when they wake up in huge pools of blood because their wives have massive fibroids that cause terrible menstrual bleeding for more than 14 days each month. How is one supposed to have a sane sex life with that?
This year, conclusively deal with the health barricades that have invaded your marriage, putting a stop to any form of intimacy; the kind that now make you feel like you are not lovers, but each other’s nurse!
If you are not in that space, yet, get regular checkups, stock up on food supplements, exercise more and keep a healthy diet.
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