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Church should just normalize polygamy to curb inherited dogma

A traditional African wedding

A traditional African wedding

 

One of the things we have refused to accept as Africans and has kept haunting us is pretending to be subservient to strictest fidelity to colonial shrine's rules of monogamous marriages yet we are recalcitrant to stringent rules and keep cheating on our wives we vow never to cheat on during such marriages.

We have ended up being hypocrites and ambidextrous Christians by vowing to do what we cannot do in continuity. Colonialists who smuggled in these strictest and undoable provisos managed to confuse our forefathers that polygamy was or is evil and we were also indoctrinated into such dogma and inherited hate speech by infection. 

If the whole retired archbishop of the Church of Uganda can be relieved of his duties because of cheating on his wife with a beddable married woman: if the whole senior city pastor can also get himself a pulchritudinous damsel among his flock: if catholic priests can sire children yet they are not supposed to as per the inherited colonial rules; then who are we the spiritually bankrupt believers to accept to be preached by spiritually strong, not to drink wine yet the preachers are drunkards?

Haaaa! We should look at the preachers of colonial rules preach fidelity at the altar and yet when they are not in their cussocks, they are cuckolding their flock's women? Aya baasi.

After all these shameful unfoldings in our colonial shrines cum churches, it is important for the church to embrace customary marriages in order to avoid hiding in strictest Christianity provisos of vowing to do what is difficult!

We should normalize polygamy and the churches must recognize them not only at paying tithes but also at holy communion and other important church rituals.

Note that I am not inciting every man to be polygamous; even in Islamic marriages, you cannot be polygamous when you are unable to take care of and love your wives equally.

Customary marriage is legally recognized in Uganda under the law (Customary Marriages Act) as long as you register it as customary marriage.

We have many prominent Ugandans who are far from the madding crowd of colonial marriage rules and are doing well. Take an example of Hon. Mwesigwa Rukutana and the current chief justice of Uganda, Alfonso Owiny-Dollo. We should emulate them if we can manage to love and care for our wives equally! 

Church leaders should also be left out or discriminated against in the new normal of going customary because it does not make sense to be a pretender when the heart wants what it wants.

For God and My Country.

kakwenzarukirabashaija@gmail.com

The writer is a novelist and Africanization enthusiast

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+5 #1 David 2021-01-21 22:11
Church does not make rules that govern it. God does, through the holy scriptures
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+3 #2 Eric L 2021-01-22 08:18
The writer seems to be a small god wanting to make his own rule book ahead of the christian one.

Yes,so we are as well a corrupt black race,going by the number of corruption scandals announced on the continent as well involving our presidents and other leaders we chose.

So should we declare corruption an acceptable way of life therefore???

Living away from sin and for the law are deliberate actions.

Again who tells the writer that once one marries five or ten he should treat them equally,is that written in the polygamous marriage books he read!!
We live by laws as a deliberate way of life dear.
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0 #3 Kakwenza Rukirabasha 2021-01-22 17:40
Quoting David:
Church does not make rules that govern it. God does, through the holy scriptures

Haha! Bible tells us not to eat pig, also the wisest man in the Bible had a thousand wives. Lol.
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0 #4 Kakwenza Rukirabasha 2021-01-22 17:42
Quoting Eric L:
The writer seems to be a small god wanting to make his own rule book ahead of the christian one.

Yes,so we are as well a corrupt black race,going by the number of corruption scandals announced on the continent as well involving our presidents and other leaders we chose.

So should we declare corruption an acceptable way of life therefore???

Living away from sin and for the law are deliberate actions.

Again who tells the writer that once one marries five or ten he should treat them equally,is that written in the polygamous marriage books he read!!
We live by laws as a deliberate way of life dear.

Corruption is a sin whereas polygamy isn't
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0 #5 WADADA rogers 2021-01-22 22:02
Many just read the bible but some of us study the book with a view of understanding its contents and why it was written and for whom.

i retaliate that the bible was not written for us and all that is in it is for a different group of people with different cultures. But since we have chosen to refer to the bible, allow me say this.

According to the bible Adah and Zillah were married to Lamech- Genesis 4:19, we are told in the book of Gen 16:1-3 that Abraham married Hagar on the advise of his barren wife Sarah, yours truly King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines, King David also stole Bethshaba, a wife to Uriah and made her his 80th wife to mentio but a few and the list goes on and on.

The desire to have more than one woman is a human weakness that is wired in every man including religious leaders
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0 #6 WADADA rogers 2021-01-22 22:09
The New Testament is not devoid of the condemnation of polygamy as the white man who brought Christianity wants us to believe.

In fact, the new testament was an attempt to amend what the white man considered as sins and vices in the old.

The white man wanted to fuse his culture and tradition with Christianity to make them appear to be one and the same.

He wanted to use the bible to fight our ways as Africans. For instance in the book of Titus 1:6 and 1 Timothy 3:1-5, teach that to be an elder in the church a man must be married to only one wife.

And in Luke 16:14, Jesus notes: “No servant can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. I have read the entire studied the entire bible and i dare you who pretend to be religious to show me a verse in the bible that out rightly condemn polygamy.
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+2 #7 Muhamad Noor 2021-01-24 10:56
Thanks Kakwenza for your good ideas on polygamy. I have two close friends : Paul and Joseph.

Paul and Joseph are committed Christians. When I visited Paul I saw four girls at his home. And when I visited Joseph I saw five girls at his home.

Both Joseph and Paul practice monogamy/zero grazing. Since the two Christians practice polygaamy and they want their children to continue with the same values, then who will marry these girls of my two friends?
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0 #8 Opta 2021-01-26 15:53
Kamwenza, you are very right
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