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YOUR VIEW
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Written by John Vianney Nsimbe
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Thursday, 30 October 2008 10:03 |
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Jacqueline Mbabazi, 21, Student
Guys normally apply the pressure demanding for sex once you have dated for a while. But if I have decided to abstain then much as I respect his feelings and desires, mine comes first and there is no compromise. If he cannot accept that then he is better off finding a girl who will give in to his demands. Taddeus Tonda, 27, Information Technologist
The best thing in this entire circus is communication. If I want sex yet she does not, we would have to talk about it to know her reasons. Since sex is only allowed when we are married, then I would wait. For those who cannot wait for an abstaining partner can look elsewhere. Mary Nanderenga, 24, Student
If I have made my decision to abstain, I cannot go back on it and I would respect his decision too. Love is about waiting and abstinence is a virtue that is good. If the guy is not ready to wait until we are married, he can as well get another girl. Many guys today are into hit and run and until I have tied the knot, no sex.
Jeff Mwaniki, 23, Student
Love is about sacrifices and it is not demanding. I believe if one truly loves their boyfriend or girlfriend and who chooses to abstain, their best interests must be observed much as one may argue that one who wants the sex also has best interests in that. But we all know that sex is only legal for the married.
Sheila Otim, 25, Psychologist
Love is not all about sex like most men think. In that case, if the girl chooses to abstain, she means it and therefore no tantrums should be thrown by the man who thinks abstinence is old-fashioned. Abstinence is a good value and pre-marital sex is bad. If one partner chooses to abstain, then they are not ready for sex and true lovers will respect that. Magdalena Mutale, 23, Student
Abstinence is a wise decision and if my partner chooses that then I am with him all the way even if it is secondary virginity we are looking at here. If you truly love someone and he is not fooling you that he is abstaining yet he has another side girlfriend, which means you have to investigate, stick by him. Jimmy Amone, 23, Student
If my girlfriend told me that she has chosen to abstain until we are married, it is fine by me because Christian teaching calls for no sex until marriage. Even if it is secondary virginity she is looking for, it is a sign that she has done some soul-searching and realized that sex before marriage is wrong, which is no problem for me. Lydia Atyang, 26, Management
I am ready to abstain until marriage for his sake. Women normally have the self-discipline to abstain and if the guy wants that, I will be patient with him without any qualms. On the other hand, I expect the same treatment from him because I have chosen to abstain and if he is not willing to, to hell with him. Lyn Lempacu, 24, Student
Women can normally sacrifice and accept it if the man says that he is abstaining but men have to learn to respect women’s choices, as no means no. I can wait for him until he is ready. What is required is talking about it and working together to fulfill the goal of abstinence until marriage. It is very possible to abstain even if you have had sex before. Cathy Wanjiku, 24, Student If we have been having sex and then he suddenly says not anymore until marriage I would be very suspicious. It will be hard for me to take and that can actually push me out of the relationship because learning to abstain again, something that I may not have done for years because I have one faithful partner is not easy.
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